The Art of Saying Thank You

Close your eyes for a minute.  Think back on the last time you received a thank you card.  If you’re like me, you’re smiling at the memory.  I’ve received my fair share of thank you notes over the years—for gifts, for advice I’ve given, for introductions, for helping someone through a tough patch.  And each time I have felt good.

I’ll admit that I need to be more diligent about sending notes to people who have done something for which I am grateful.

So, I’m embarking on a 30 day mini challenge of writing 5 thank you notes per day for 30 days.  I’m inspired to do this by John Israel who I met last year and who completed his own 365 day challenge.  Read about it here

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Well, you might say to yourself, do I even know 150 people?  Chances are you do…My notes will go to family members, to colleagues, to employees, to clients and to random people who do something remarkable.  Do this and watch magic happen.  You will feel good, they will feel good and gratitude spreads like wildfire!

Need some ideas on how to get started?  Keep in mind that the best thank you notes have 3 characteristics:

  1. They are specific—be sure to mention the specific thing you are grateful for.
  2. They are succinct—enough words to make the person smile. Less is more and memorable.
  3. They are personal—let your personality and your own style come through. Handwritten notes are best.

The Hallmark people have some great ideas ()

Here are some words and phrases to consider:

  • You’re the best!
  • I’m humbled and grateful.
  • I’m touched beyond words.
  • Your thoughtfulness is a gift I will treasure.
  • You went above and beyond and I am grateful.

Our friends at The Blossom Shoppe Florist share other ideas: Use words like Generous, Generosity, Useful, Perfect, Thoughtful, Appreciate, Grateful, Much Needed, Always Treasure. (

  •     Thanks for all your help.
  •     I owe you big time.
  •     Thanks for being there.
  •     I’ll never forget your kindness.
  •     Thank you for being my biggest supporter. I couldn’t do it without you.
  •     I can’t thank you enough, so please accept my flowers as a small token of my appreciation.
  •     I am so grateful for all you do, I can’t thank you enough.
  •     Thanks for your patience, your loving words, your kindness, your friendship
  •     When the whole world left, you were there with open arms. Thanks for being my friend!!
  •     You were there for me when I needed you the most! Thank you for being my friend!

Notes also have 6 basic components:

  1. Salutation–Rule of thumb: if this is your first correspondence be more formal than informal.
  2. Why are you writing–This should be in the first few sentences. Be succinct
  3. Make it personal–Remind the person how and where you met. Mention the specific occasion.
  4. Open the possibility for reaching out again
  5. Be enthusiastic—have positive tone throughout
  6. Valediction/End of the letter–consider the following
    • Lots of love
    • You rock!
    • I appreciate you
    • My heart is happy

So… are you ready to take up the challenge?  Let’s do this!  5 notes per day for 30 days.  Let me know what happens.

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Nancy Allen


G. Nancy Allen is an international speaker, coach, consultant and expert on women’s business issues. Nancy has over 30 years of experience helping small business owners at all stages of growth. As President and CEO of WBDC Florida/Her Company Incorporated, Nancy manages and leads an incredible team of staff, sponsors, partners and women business leaders who are dedicated to certifying, connecting and championing women in business. Nancy has been recognized for her work on behalf of women in business through numerous prestigious awards: -Nancy was recently honored by the International Career and Business Alliance (ICABA) as one of South Florida’s 100 most accomplished Caribbean Americans. She is especially proud of this award because it highlights her heritage as well as her professional accomplishments. -Nancy is the recipient of the World Women Leadership Achievement Award from the World Women Leadership Congress -Nancy is also the proud recipient of the Association Marketing Award from Women in ECommerce. -Most recently Nancy was named Honorary Ambassador of Cascais, Portugal by the Ambassador’s Club of the Industry Sector of Cascais and the Estoril Coast. Nancy’s personal motto is Connections, Creativity and Courage in all endeavors. She holds a Master’s Degree from the Johns Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies (SAIS, 1982). She was born in Haiti and raised in South Florida. Nancy is bi-lingual in English and French and is fluent in Spanish and Creole.

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